STILL US
A 3-Session Reset for Couples on the Brink
You didn't get married to feel this alone.
You're not here because things are a little rocky. You're here because something between you has broken down — and you're not sure how much longer you can keep going like this.
Maybe you're fighting constantly. Maybe you've gone so quiet that the silence feels worse than the arguments. Maybe you still love each other but you don't really like each other anymore — and that realization is terrifying.
You're not looking for someone to nod and take notes while nothing changes.
You're looking for a way back.
What if the problem isn't your marriage —
it's the pattern running it?
Most couples in crisis think the problem is each other. Too different. Too damaged. Too far gone.
But underneath almost every marriage in pain is a cycle — a specific, identifiable pattern of pursuit and withdrawal, dominance and disappearance, fighting and silence — that neither partner created on purpose and neither partner knows how to stop.
When you can see the pattern clearly, everything changes.
Not because the hard stuff disappears. Because for the first time, you know what you're actually dealing with — and you have a way through it.
Introducing Still Us
A 3-Session RLT Reset for Couples who aren't quite ready to give up
A three-session Relational Intensive that goes where other approaches won't.
Still Us is built on Relational Life Therapy (RLT) — an approach that does something traditional therapy carefully avoids: it directly names and confronts the harmful patterns driving your relationship toward collapse.
The entitlement. The grandiosity. The withdrawal. The behavior that leaves one partner dominant and the other disappearing.
Most therapists create a safe space and then tiptoe around the thing that's actually destroying the relationship.
In Still Us, we go straight to it — compassionately, directly, and without letting either partner off the hook.
The first shift happens in Session 1.
What We Do Together
Session 1 — See It Clearly
The cycle underneath your fighting gets named with precision. Not "you have communication problems" — the actual pattern, identified and laid out so both of you can finally see what's been happening. Most couples describe this session as the first time they've felt understood in the same room in years.
You leave with: Clarity, shared language, and relief.
Session 2 — Interrupt It Together
Understanding the pattern isn't enough — you have to break it. In Session 2 we work directly with the behaviors that have been keeping you stuck. The partner who's been dominant is compassionately and directly challenged to show up differently. The partner who's been withdrawing learns how to stay in the conversation. Real repair happens in this session — not as homework. Here, while I'm present to hold the structure.
You leave with: A new way through conflict and your first real experience of repair.
Session 3 — Build Forward
New patterns are forming. Both partners leave with a clear picture of what relational joy looks like specifically for them — and with evidence they've already moved toward it. You'll know what to do when it gets hard again. And it won't blindside you.
You leave with: Hope grounded in evidence, not just optimism.
Option to continue at my regular rate of $150/hour (if we all agree it feels right)
This Works Because It's Different
Most couples therapy keeps the peace in the room. Still Us changes what's happening in the room.
RLT is one of the only relational approaches that directly addresses grandiose, entitled, and anti-relational behavior — the patterns that make one partner feel chronically alone inside their own marriage — but it's done with love and acceptance of the person instead of harshness.
If you've tried therapy before and felt like the person who needed to change the most left feeling either validated or criticized (instead of with a desire to change their behavior) — or if the therapist recommended divorce — this is why that happened, and why this is different.
What This Is — And What It Isn't
Still Us is for you if:
You're fighting regularly or the distance has become unbearable
You love each other but aren't sure you can keep going like this
You've tried therapy before and didn't get real traction (or your therapist recommended leaving)
One partner is more ready than the other — that's okay, it's normal, and it's not a dealbreaker
You want a real results, not an indefinite process
Still Us is not for you if:
Neither partner is willing to do the work to change what's been going on in the relationship
You're looking for someone to validate that everything is your partner's fault
You want an ongoing safe space to complain about your relationship
There is active abuse or safety concerns in the relationship
(You must first get to a safe place, then we can work on the relationship)
Here's What You Don't Have To Do
You don't have to rehash everything.
We're not building a case file. We're identifying the pattern and changing it — without requiring you to relive every painful moment that brought you here.
You don't have to come in ready to forgive.
You're allowed to be angry, uncertain, and scared. That's not a barrier to starting. It's often exactly where the work begins.
You don't have to know if your marriage is worth saving.
You just have to be willing to find out. Three sessions is enough to get you real information — about your relationship, and about what you actually want.
You don't have to be the one who convinces your partner.
If you found this page, you're probably the one who's been carrying the hope. That's enough to start. I'll meet your partner where they are — skepticism included.
Everything Included in Still Us
Pre-Session Intake & Relationship Assessment
Session 1: See It Clearly
Session 2: Interrupt It Together
Session 3: Build Forward
Post-Intensive Clarity & Forward Plan
Total Value
Your Cost
Value
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$200
$200
$200
$49
$748
Your Investment: $375
I'm early in building this offer. The price is low on purpose. The results are not.
You get RLT coaching— with tangible results— at a fraction of what this will cost in the future.
For context: the average divorce costs between $15,000 and $30,000 — but the real costs are not financial.
"I know what it's like to stand at the edge of your marriage — desperate for something to change, but not quite ready to give up."
About Your RLT Coach, Vauna
While preparing divorce papers, something spoke to my heart: "Not yet."
Learning to trust that quiet voice, even when most of my loved ones disagreed, changed everything.
My husband and I began rebuilding ourselves and our relationship.
We tried marriage counseling, which was not very helpful, sometimes even harmful.
So we spent several years figuring it out on our own — how to communicate effectively, how to work through hard things as a team, and how to replace anger with compassion, resentment with connection.
Our marriage became almost everything I had dreamed of.
But we still had some lingering problems.
After all the work we'd done (including seeing 7 different therapists) some of those issues remained and nearly ended our marriage once again.
...until I discovered the audiobook Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy.
RLT was the missing link — the tool that finally helped us heal, change, and build the deep, loving connection we'd always wanted.
It was so transformative that I'm becoming a certified RLT coach myself, in the final stage of completing my certification.
I also hold certifications in NLP, Timeline Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy.
I was a teen mom. A single mom for eleven years. I've been married 25 years. I have six amazing kids, three fantastic step kids, and six wonderful grandchildren.
Marriage and parenting are by far the hardest and the most rewarding things I've done in life. My marriage and family bring me tremendous joy.
Yours can too.
If you know something has to change but don't know how to get there — and you're not ready to give up — I want you to know that real, lasting change is possible. I'd love to help you find your way back to each other.
What My Clients Are Saying
"Working with Vauna felt like connecting with someone who truly sees and understands you.
Her calm presence and thoughtful guidance made it easy to open up and work through the stress and overthinking I had been carrying. Our work brought me clarity I didn’t realize I needed, and I continue to feel its benefits. We now fight less, my relationship is less stressful, and I have been feeling truly happy and relaxed."
-Amy
"Vauna has walked me through the basics of the RLT approach, and it is SO DIFFERENT than traditional talk therapy.
She has taught me to recognize the role I took on in my family of origin, and that how I adapted then may have served me well as a child but is now impeding my progress and preventing me from getting what I need.
Vauna has also given me tools to act out of wisdom, intention, and compassion for myself, rather than reacting.
Our sessions have given me memorable, visual experiences that remind me how to set and maintain boundaries with myself and others, and why those boundaries matter.
I am grateful for the renewed hope that the RLT approach has given me."
-Becky
You've waited long enough to feel like yourselves again.
Three sessions won't fix everything. But they will change something — and that is enough to show you what's possible.
If you're ready to stop surviving your marriage and start finding your way back to each other, I'd love to talk.
Book Your Free Clarity Call
This is a 30-minute conversation to make sure Still Us is the right fit for where you are. No pressure, no pitch — just clarity.
Still Us is limited to a small number of couples at a time to ensure every client receives full attention and care.
If you're ready, don't wait.
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